04/25/2017 (2)

I met the father of my children on the third day  I arrived New York City in 1996 and dated him in two weeks. I started my first cashier job in a Chinese restaurant a couple of months later. His father did say " You are  a restaurant worker, what else are you." I did not minded at all because I said "He is the person looks like the real rich person (among riches because he takes good care of his hair)" made him asking me "what's wrong with my hair?" -- April 25th, 2017

I assume a lot of people do have a lot of experiences like this: your good friend(s) came from different background but you are buddy-s because you share a lot of great interests or experiences together. Your differences even annoying differences are so tolerable to each other. That is not the issue.
Then, this friend of yours may also have other friend that he(she) can totally ignore any annoying differences just like you do about this friend of yours. And so on, and so on. It is, of course, not an issue.
Now, you have this party that you invite this friend of yours to attain and said this friend can bring his(her) friends and/or friends' friends. You have this big group of friends chain with a lot of friends you never met or never heard of. Some you have great conversations with and get along great to call new friends. Well, there are some, you would expect, that you do not get along with. As long as you or them don't step on each other's toes, then it is just a party. Not an issue.
Well, what will be the issue: they have some impressions about you from the party. Their background are totally not similar at all with your or the friend of yours, both of you knew nothing about them. One day, the friend of you met a friend of his(her) and heard some stories about you and shocked both of you. The impressions stories are all interpreted by those friends' friends background which neither of you share. All shit stories like nightmare have hunted all around you somewhere( maybe every where) and you just do not know what's wrong. Your jokes, your comments and everything about you have been the rumors of your friends' chain circle with "not get along" negative-ness. "You are the shit" is what your friends' friends know about you. That is the huge issue.
-- April 25th, 2017

My restaurant work experience is not an issue at all to those who know my family history or who feel great about me. I myself do have very good memories about the experience. In Chinese restaurants abroad, tons of college graduates from China work there till they get settled on their profession. It was very nice to have someone in common to chat with while we making our tuition. Others were hard working people supporting families here. Working in a Chinese restaurant abroad had been fun experience to me, never ashamed of it (very honestly). -- April 25th, 2017