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1) Can you understand the frustration expressed during the conversation to identify the possible causes of the frustration?

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3) Can you effectively communicate your expertise to be understood as possible helpful solutions?

----Min Fang, July 10th of 2019


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Saturday, June 30, 2018

06-30-2018 于家一些相关事情中我所不能理解的 (What I don't understand about Yu's families)

06-30-2018 我对于家一些故事的不理解 (What I don't understand about Yu's families) 



听说了今天早上所谈的于家。(Heard this morning's talk about Yu's families)
我的回应:我听说的是于家1964年已经开始查询我爷爷在香港的钱财藏在哪里,1965年已在想办法将我爷爷的上海财产转入于家自己名下,我爷爷在1965年时在上海报警是我父亲的弟妹们可以顺利拿到我爷爷的遗嘱所分配家产的原因。(My response: I heard Yu's family had been sniffing around where Hong Kong money had been in 1964 and intended to transfer my grandfather's Shanghai money into Yu's family's bank account. My grandfather called Shanghai law enforcement was the reason my father's siblings inherited their inheritable according to my grandfather's wills.)

我听说的是我爷爷1965年向上海警方报警时不承认这位于姓私人助理的妻子是我爷爷自己的骨肉血脉小孩。我听说我爷爷1965年在向上海警方报警时一字未提香港信托。我听说于姓私人助理是从我父亲弟妹处得知我爷爷有钱放在了香港。(I heard my grandfather denied his fatherhood to the wife of his private assistant Yu in his account to the Shanghai law enforcement and he did not mention Hong Kong money at all. I heard the private assistant Yu heard about Hong Kong money from my father's siblings.)

我最近听说,根据DNA鉴定,我爷爷的于姓私人助理和我曾祖父的于姓保镖是亲生父子关系(听说两人不是户籍父子关系)。(I heard recently that my grandfather's private assistant was the biological son of my great grandfather's security Yu by DNA test result. I heard they were not legally registered as the father and son.)

这些都是可以通过当年警方的档案及DNA鉴定予以核实的,所有材料的真伪也都是可以做司法鉴定的。(All these should be able to be verified by the police records as well as the DNA test results, and the authentication of the documents can certainly be verified by forensics.) 

我就是不太明白这个于姓私人助理为什么会和我爷爷要钱,为什么会将我爷爷的钱全算成他自己的,闹到我爷爷要报警的地步,于姓私人助理是个拿工资受雇佣的私人助理,怎么会去想我爷爷的钱?就像现在这个美国公司的事情,于家不屑解释他们当年凭什么扣留了我的生活费用却一再高调强调他们就是应该继续拿钱,凭什么呀?(I just don't understand this:  Being an employed private assistant, a work relationship person to my grandfather, why private assistant Yu would demand my grandfather's wealth? why this private assistant would consider my grandfather's wealth to be his own so seriously enough that prompted my grandfather called Shanghai law enforcement's help? Why would he feel so comfortable he should want my grandfather's wealth? Just like current American Fund company's story, Yu's families have no need at all to explain why they detained my providing but strongly argue with emphasis that they should continually receive good money to be provided by the American company, why is this?)

但我也听说了我母亲的结婚礼物就是在1966年时由这个于姓私人助理送到了南京,只是我母亲没有拿到而已。(But I also heard my mother's wedding gift was sent to Nanjing to my mother by this same private assistant Yu in 1966, my mother did not receive it because of other reasons.)

我听说的是:我奶奶因为食物造成不适是被于姓私人助理发现后送进医院的,据说于家认为我们一家应该就此永远感恩不尽,可我奶奶进了医院就再没回家而是在医院去世了,没因为被于姓私人助理发现就捡了一条命活着回家,我奶奶没有因为于姓私人助理而活着回家,我们家凭什么就因为于姓私人助理拿着工资做了他该做的一份工作就应该对于家永远感恩不尽啊?(What I heard is: My grandmother was discovered and sent to the hospital by this private assistant Yu when my grandmother got food related discomforts. I heard Yu's families think my grandmother's family should appreciate this permanently forever, but my grandmother did not survive the discomforts but died in the hospital. It was not like my grandmother survived because this private assistant found her on time, the truth was my grandmother never left the hospital but died there. Why my grandmother's family should appreciate private assistant Yu so greatly and so forever because he was the one found her and did his paid-job to send her to the hospital during his paid working-time?)

我听说的是:我曾祖父的故事也是这个情况,因食物造成不适,由当时拿着保镖工资的于姓保镖发现而送医或者是叫了医生,隔夜就去世了。凭什么说我们就欠了于家的?(What  I heard is: My great-grandfather was a similar story that he got food related discomforts, and he was discovered by the security Yu, and either sent to the hospital or called in a doctor by security Yu during security Yu's paid shift. My great-grandfather died overnight or so. Why my family owes this Yu's family because of this?)

我听说的是:我爷爷在1948年在香港办理信托后,就把上海大部分的财产放在了我奶奶的名字下面,我奶奶一住院,我爷爷就赶紧把钱转回他自己名下结果我奶奶还是去世了。(What I heard is: After my grandfather set up the Hong Kong Trust, my grandfather transferred the majority of his wealth to my grandmother's name. When my grandmother was hospitalized, my grandfather hurried to transfer the wealth back to his own name but seems did not save my grandmother.)

我就是不明白啊。就像昨天在广播剧里,于家就是一副已经很不耐烦的口气,好像是我在无理取闹才硬要说钱是我的,是美国公司在蛮不讲理才坚持不给他们于家想要的美国钱,可他们于家和美国公司一点关联都没有的,于家从来就不是什么投资人也不是什么生意往来户,于家就是个什么都不是。怎么就这么凶啊?(I just don't understand any of this. Just like yesterday's broadcasting, Yu's families sound like they are so fed up with all these already. as if I am being so annoying to insist on stating that is my money, the American company has been so ridiculous insist on not to continue providing them the money, but Yu's families got nothing to do with the American company, not investing associated nor business associated, basically is not associated at all. Why this tone?)

我爷爷在香港所设立信托的委托书里所指定的唯一受益人是我父亲的胎记掌纹支所生的胎记掌纹女,我是1967年出生有着和我父亲一摸一样的双掌胎记掌纹的他的掌纹女,是我父亲所生所育的他的骨肉女,是我父亲靠他自己的工资收入辛苦养大的他的亲生女,我方敏是我父亲唯一的女儿,我爷爷的掌纹儿子所生所育的唯一掌纹女。(My grandfather's settler's letter of the Hong Kong Trust entity stated that the sole beneficiary person should be the female-palm from his eldest son Fang, Wenhai‘s (方文海) palm-line. I was born in 1967 with birthmarks on my both palms exactly the same after my father, I am my father's own blood, I am my father's own girl he had raised by his hard-earned own making, I am my father's only biological daughter, my grandfather's birthmark son's only female birthmark-palms.)

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----2018年6月30日。