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1) Can you understand the frustration expressed during the conversation to identify the possible causes of the frustration?

2) Can you identify if you can offer some help from your knowledge, experiences, and expertise?

3) Can you effectively communicate your expertise to be understood as possible helpful solutions?

----Min Fang, July 10th of 2019


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Thursday, July 6, 2017

07-06-2017 ¥100 a pin is possible and Imaginable (¥100 铁丝费有可能也能想象)

07-06-2017 ¥100 a pin is possible and Imaginable (¥100 铁丝费有可能也能想象)

Heard a little story about some ¥100(s) was told about my college time.
My response: Unheard of it when I was in college. Heard there were some disputes in that dorm I often visit sometimes, but unheard of this "money punishment" story. I can totally imagine this college time dorm-mates fights.

That dorm was the same as mine on 6th floor of Building 16th, right across one of the water closet. There was a pretty girl from Chongqin, Sichuan province, among its 8 dorm residents who always dressed very nicely. They were all very friendly to me whenever I visit their dorm. I never asked anyone about their family background or income situation as a college student as you can imagine. Her dress were not party type nice so I never attempt to borrow any from her, like sometimes I did in college time, to go to some parties.

Some say is it possible for her to have ¥100 to be punished in that time? I say it is possible if her parents were private business owners, and it is possible if her both parents were Chinese Science Academy employees or similar and she is the only child. Imaginable in both case she could be crying in this dorm fights and facing "money punishment" situation. Private run business started in 1980 time in China and we were in college between 1985-1990. Science Academy employees around my parent time was ¥153/month, both parents would be ¥306/month and if she is the only child her share of monthly providing from her family should be ¥102. I have only my father was Science Academy employee(¥153) but my mother was accountant promoted from bookkeeping(¥53), so my share of providing from my 4 person family was only ¥50/month. This "college student providing share decided by family income evenly divided" is a typical way of calculating monthly providing amount among Science Academy or College Faculty families, it is similar among almost every Science Academy family. This is no kidding at all.

Why rich private business owner's kid would be imaginable to be in this $100 fine situation got nothing to do with their wealthy finance, but everything to do with how they became private business owners in a planned economy China. They were either rural small town residents, or the spanned-out group from China's formal planned economic that represented stable income with pension financial system. They were the "social out-caster group that lack of appropriate social respect" because of this "they became private business owner only to survive". The following link is an article in Chinese about this.

05-29-2017 让人感慨的八十年代

05-28-2017 让人惊恐的八十年代

----July 6th, 2017

听说今天早上播出了我大学时期的同学有个"¥100罚款"的故事。
我的回应:我上大学时没听说过。读书时经常会听到同寝室的吵成一团,但没听说还要“罚款¥100”。但是可以想象大学寝室里吵成一团的情形。

那个寝室是和我当时住的上医16号楼6层是同一层,就在右边那个洗手间的对面。那个寝室里是住着一个四川重庆来的长的很漂亮也打扮的很漂亮的女孩。那个寝室我经常去玩,寝室里的女孩们对我也都很友善。但我当时只是个学生也从未关心过他们的家世背景或家庭收入。她的衣服都很漂亮但都不是去学校舞会跳舞可以穿的,所以我那时虽然经常“借”别人东西打扮美美去舞会,但还真没跟她借过。

有人说那时读大学的学生就能有“¥100罚款”故事,有可能真实吗?我说有可能。要是她的父母是当时很有钱"个体工商业者"一族,或者她的父母都是中国科学院的或者都是大学当老师的而她是家里的独生女。两种请况都是可以想象她有可能在寝室的争吵中哭成一团还面临¥100罚款。中国是在八十年代开始有个体工商业者,我们是在1985-1990年在上海读大学。中国科学院或大学老师和我父母同时期的,当时工资是¥153,父母都是中科院的就有¥306,而她要是家里的独生女,那她每月生活费就应该是¥102。我家只有我父亲是中科院的$153/月,我妈是出纳转的会计只有¥53/月,我还有个弟弟所以我上大学的生活费是¥50/月。这种“孩子上大学每月生活费是按每月家里人均收入来计算的”基本上是所有中科院或大学老师家里通用的计算方式。一点不开玩笑。

为什么“个体工商业者”有钱一族的小孩可能会在学校里面临“寝室吵架罚款¥100”的处境?这种可以想象他们会面临这样的处境和他们家里有钱一点关系都没有,而和他们家里在当时计划经济的中国为什么会成为“个体户”有很大关系。他们家里要么是乡镇企业,要么是企业关门了或从企业里下岗的,既没有收入也没有退休金,也就是被当时的中国社会经济体制给“甩出来的需要自己谋生存”一群。他们成为个体户有钱人只是因为生存所需,他们是当时“被社会驱逐出来的没有人会尊重的一群”。下面的链接文章就是谈的当时社会情形。

05-29-2017 让人感慨的八十年代

05-28-2017 让人惊恐的八十年代

----2017年7月6日。